I see a basic problem here. What people “prefer” is rarely what they get. Of course people in online dating say they want to meet their perfect mates: men want 21 yo playmates and women want famous rich guys. Does this mean that cougars don’t exist? Not by a long shot.
It would be hard to deny that there are young guys “dating” older women out there. (“Dating” in this context most of the times means short term sexual flings.) Even the distinguished Paul Elam “admits” he did that:
“I am not knocking it. When I was 21 I had a 45 year old woman show me what fer, good and proper, for three weeks in a cabin in Oklahoma. It was an educational rite of passage and a very fond memory in my life. Wouldn’t trade it for the world.”
Do these guys prefer older women? No way. It’s just they’re blinded by hormones and would fuck anything that moves. (No disrespect, Paul :) If there’s no playmate willing to go to bed with them they quickly settle for practically anything. So there’s a demand (of sorts) for cougars, but is there a supply? Obviously there is because otherwise these young guys wouldn’t have those fond memories. But how come women are willing to have sex with guys so radically different from what they say they want? What’s in it for the cougars? There are many explanations. First of all, most of them are sexually starved because of being alone or being in a sexless marriage with a hapless beta. Most of them want to feel sexually desired but they know that real high-status men of their age are looking for younger quality women. They also know that young guys with the “promise of high status” plus the status boost of being young are constantly looking for sex and are willing to stroke the ego of an older woman. Some try to hold on to their own youth (even if it’s already gone). It’s not that surprising considering how many western women are just overgrown little princesses. They are deluded into thinking that if they bag a young guy then they themselves are young – or at least look young. Many times they just grab what’s in front of them. They are not intentionally looking for younger men but those are the easiest to “catch”. Here’s what Paul Elam had to say about his experience, perfectly describing both sides of the equation:
“I was a youngster with a gold mine of a horny older woman desperate for sexual relevance.”
Cougars are not a myth. What is a myth is the feminist notion of cougars being “empowered” women doing it for fun. They are not “majestic predators on the prowl” but women of fading beauty trying to hold on to the last remnants of their youth.